My partner and I have lived together for 7 out of the 12 years we’ve been together. We waited a long time to move into a place because we decided years before that we wanted to buy and not rent. Obviously moving in with each other is a massive step—moving in with each other and sharing a mortgage is even bigger. But it worked from day one because we were 100% on the same page. Everything was discussed and agreed upon and double checked and then discussed some more. We got a few strong reactions when we announced we had found a place—shock, apprehension, the unwarranted warnings of “what if you break up” (because we’re not married, and obviously married people never “break up” *eye roll*)—but we were certain that 5 years of building a solid foundation was sufficient for this huge step. And it was.
Below are pieces of “advice” or concepts that tend to come up for couples who live together. They’re also pieces of “advice” or concepts that we dodge.